059 – Healing Speaking Anxiety Ahead of A Big Presentation

These coaching episodes of Delight in the Limelight allow you to hear me coach a student or client on a specific speaking confidence issue.

In this episode, I help Shawn Kunkler, the host of the Realtor180 podcast, who, at the time of recording, is gearing up for his biggest talk to date, in front of 400 realtors.

We explore the root causes of his speaking anxiety and clear them away with some powerful healing techniques. I then offer Shawn specific practices and techniques to use so that he hits the floor running when he steps up to the mic.

If you struggle with speaking anxiety, you’ll benefit from hearing the mindset shifts, practices, and rituals covered in this session.

Listen to the Podcast Here

Ask Yourself

• What memories do you have of being judged?
• What impact did your parents have on your self-esteem?
• Do you mentally rehearse the worst?

Insights

• Shawn connects his speaking anxiety back to two authority figures – his father and teachers at school.
• Shawn notices that feeling unseen, unheard, and excluded as a child made him both crave the limelight and feel anxious.
• Shawn begins to see his upcoming talk as an opportunity to share his expertise and passion.

Clearing Modalities

• Emotional Clearing Technique (EFT Tapping)
• Visualization and mental rehearsal
• Journaling

Practical Advice

• In the days leading up to a speaking event, practice techniques like mental rehearsal daily, to prepare yourself for the real thing.
• If you find yourself dwelling on anxiety, journal about it and give yourself helpful reminders.
• For the days before and day of, warm up your voice so it’s resonant and full, and stretch out your body so you’re fully engaged and energized.
  

Connect with Shawn

An East Coast native who traded Connecticut winters for California’s sunny skies in his early twenties, Shawn has cultivated a deep love for Northern California and all that his community provides. Mastering the art of customer success in his previous career, he pivoted from luxury athletic clubs into the real estate realm in 2017 and never looked back.

Serving the same discerning Bay Area clientele, Shawn has honed the keen ability to anticipate clients’ individual needs and identify the right course of action to achieve success. Driven by a strong desire to help others put down roots in the beloved community he calls home, his passion for real estate is palpable. It is evidenced in the way he thoughtfully guides clients through the home buying process, advocating every step of the way.

Shawn is also the host of the Realtor180 podcast, a weekly show dedicated to connecting listeners with top-performing agents nationwide to uncover their insider secrets for achieving massive success in the real estate industry.

An accomplished martial artist and published author, the motorcycle enthusiast loves riding up the coast, visiting museums, and hiking Bay Area trails on the weekends.

• Shawn’s website (Homeward Associates)
• Shawn on Instagram
• Shawn’s podcast, Realtor180

Ways You Can Get Linda’s Help With Speaking Confidence​

1. Use the Pacing exercise to focus your mind before you speak. This is free to download with the book resources at DelightintheLimelight.com/resources.
2. Prepare yourself vocally, physically, emotionally, and energetically, with The Speaker Green Room.
3. Want to overcome your fear of speaking and become more naturally you so you can delight in the limelight? Private Coaching with Linda to overcome your fear of speaking and delight in the limelight.
4. Get the Book: Delight in the Limelight: Overcome your fear of being seen and realize your dreams

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

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