063 – Reclaim Your Voice after Trauma from Past Performance

In this coaching session, brain nutritionist and podcast host Laurie Hammer, though comfortable on video, feels less so speaking in person. She worries she’ll say something incorrect, bore her audience, and wonders if she has anything new to say that’s different than others in her field. She also would like to regain confidence she once had and lost, about singing in public.

We come up with strategies and mindset shifts to address these concerns. We also explore the root causes of her loss of confidence around singing in public as well as performance strategies to stay focused when emotions arise when singing music that’s moving you to tears.

By the end, the level of activation from these past performing experiences has substantially diminished.

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Ask Yourself

• What places are you comfortable speaking in and where are you not?
• What are you telling yourself about your speaking abilities?
• Have you ever had a speaking or performing experience that didn’t go as you had wanted?

Insights

• Laurie realizes that her fear of making mistakes is rooted in childhood patterns.
• She sees that her self-doubt isn’t a sign of inadequacy, but a signal of old emotional wounds that are ready to be healed.
• She shifts her perspective on confidence to one that’s empowering rather than disempowering.
• By the end of the session, Laurie takes on a new attitude toward singing in public with her son.

Clearing Modalities

• EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique / Tapping)
• Emotional recall and storytelling
• Visualization

Practical Advice

• Mentally rehearse not just the performance, but the emotional state you want to embody.
• Focus on connecting with your audience—what do you ideally want this relationship to be?
• Move your body before speaking, to release tension and ground yourself in the present moment.
• Treat your voice like an instrument and warm it up before speaking.

Connect with Laurie

Laurie Hammer Murabito, Speaking & Visibility Coach, reformed painfully shy gal who accidentally became a professional speaker.

She works with coaches and consultants to write and deliver captivating presentations to establish credibility, attract ideal clients, and monetize their expertise. She combines her years as an award winning professional speaker, executive leadership coach and her obsession with neuroscience.

Laurie Hammer is the best selling author of Rethink Leadership and Rethink Your Leadership  and the host of the Be In Demand podcast. A few of her clients are Johnson & Johnson, American Cancer Society, Bay State Wealth and Bali Mastermind by Sabrina Philipp. 

• Laurie’s website
• Laurie on LinkedIn
• Laurie on Instagram
• Be In Demand Podcast

Ways You Can Get Linda’s Help With Speaking Confidence​

1. Use the Pacing exercise to focus your mind before you speak. This is free to download with the book resources at DelightintheLimelight.com/resources.
2. Prepare yourself vocally, physically, emotionally, and energetically, with The Speaker Green Room.
3. Want to overcome your fear of speaking and become more naturally you so you can delight in the limelight? Private Coaching with Linda to overcome your fear of speaking and delight in the limelight.
4. Get the Book: Delight in the Limelight: Overcome your fear of being seen and realize your dreams

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

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