054 – Clearing The Self-Doubt in Expressing Yourself

In these coaching episodes of Delight in the Limelight, you’ll get to hear me coach a student on a specific speaking confidence issue.

In this episode, Linda Ugelow coaches Abby O’Sullivan, co-founder of a podcast management agency who struggles with forgetting what she wants to say, speaking too fast, and worrying she’ll lose her audience, particularly when speaking live in person.

Linda helps her uncover the root causes of this feeling, tracing her fears back to certain childhood and adult relationships and messages she received.

Listen to the Podcast Here

Ask Yourself

• Do you struggle with speaking too fast or slow, or too quietly?
• Does you mind go blank when you speak?
• Do you worry that people won’t be interested in what you have to say, or what they think of you? 
• If yes, do you worry about strangers or people you know?
• Do these feelings hold you back from speaking or do you push through them?

Insights

• Abby realizes that because of her family dynamics, she feels “baited” by men with a certain attitude towards women.
• She can choose how she wants to respond or interact with these types of people.
• Her attempts to be a good kid and follow what the adults wanted, created patterns of hesitation

Clearing Modalities

• Reparenting the Younger Child
• Emotional Clearing Technique (EFT Tapping) for clearing a humiliating experience from elementary school
• Rinsing Remaining Debris Visualization

Practical Advice

• Notice how you feel differently around men and women. Where do you feel safe? Where are you on guard?
• Come up with a lexicon of responses to the things people say to you. 
• Stay aware of your interpretations and stay open to other ones.
• Practice visualizing how you want to feel–both for when you’re going to speak and for when you get a comment from someone you don’t like.
• Practice what you can say when your mind goes blank. Listen to episode 17: Handling Mistakes When You Speak.

Connect with Abby

Abby O’Sullivan is the co-founder of Wonder Podcast Productions, a full podcast management agency that helps business owners make money from their podcasts while saving them time on their task list. She’s passionate about supporting fellow women business owners in sharing their voice, expertise and experiences to connect with and further impact your community.

Abby’s love of podcasting also extends into hosting two shows, There She Grows and the Beauty Pro Wellness Podcast.

• Wonder Podcast Productions
• Abby on Instagram

Ways You Can Get Linda’s Help With Speaking Confidence​

1. Use the Pacing exercise to focus your mind before you speak. This is free to download with the book resources at DelightintheLimelight.com/resources.
2. Prepare yourself vocally, physically, emotionally, and energetically, with The Speaker Green Room.
3. Want to overcome your fear of speaking and become more naturally you so you can delight in the limelight? Private Coaching with Linda to overcome your fear of speaking and delight in the limelight.
4. Get the Book: Delight in the Limelight: Overcome your fear of being seen and realize your dreams

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

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