052 – Clearing Worries of What People Think When You Speak

In this episode, Linda Ugelow coaches Marcia Dawood, an angel investor and author, who struggles with blanking out on what she wants to say, and her concerns about what others think, particularly when she knows people in the audience.

Linda helps her uncover the root causes of this feeling tracing her fears back to childhood experiences of feeling silenced and judged.

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Ask Yourself

• Do you struggle with remembering what you want to say?
• Do you worry about what others think? If yes, do you worry about strangers or people you know?
• Do these hold you back from speaking or do you push through these feelings?

Insights

• She thought it was normal to feel terrified to speak in public.
• She feels comfortable speaking to a group unknown to her, but nervous when she knows people in the audience.
• Marcia remembers some messages she got from her grandmother, but we further honed in on feeling excluded at school and a presentation trauma where she was humiliated in front of the class.

Clearing Modalities

• Emotional Clearing Technique (EFT Tapping) for humiliating experience from elementary school.
• Inner Child visualization

Practical Advice

• Use the Pacing exercise to focus your mind before you speak. This is free to download with the book resources at DelightintheLimelight.com/resources
• Strategize in advance for the mistakes you’re likely to make
• Plan to be compassionate with yourself when those mistakes happen
• Ways to prepare yourself vocally, physically, emotionally, and energetically, as in The Speaker Green Room.

Connect with Marcia

Marcia Dawood is an early-stage investor who serves on the Securities and Exchange Commission’s Small Business Capital Formation Advisory Committee, is a venture partner with Mindshift Capital, a member of Golden Seeds, and the chair emeritus of the Angel Capital Association (ACA), a global professional society for angel investors.

She is also an associate producer on the award-winning documentary Show Her the Money.

A TEDx speaker and the host of The Angel Next Door podcast, Marcia walks the talk and holds investments in over fifty early-stage companies and funds. She is committed to expanding support for diverse companies that overcome the world’s biggest problems and accelerate positive change. She is passionate about bridging the gap from early-stage inception to building thriving, profitable companies.

• Marcia’s website
• The Angel Next Door
• Marcia on LinkedIn
• Marcia on Facebook
• Marcia on Instagram

Ways You Can Get My Help With Speaking Confidence​

• Download your Free Speaker Empowerment Kit with 3 mental rehearsals to pre-pave your speaking confidence whether you’re speaking live, one camera, or introducing yourself in a networking/workshop circle.
• Download your Free Speaker Preparation Checklist for the practices, rituals, and warmups I use before speaking to ensure I’m clear-headed, grounded, and charged.
• Want to overcome your fear of speaking and become more naturally you so you can delight in the limelight? Private Coaching with Linda to overcome your fear of speaking and delight in the limelight.
• Get the Book: Delight in the Limelight: Overcome your fear of being seen and realize your dreams

Credits – Music: “A Smooth Jazz” by Music Cocktail

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