I learned how to please other people at a very early age. It didn’t take long for this “ability’”of mine to turn into a deep need for external validation. There were two kinds of students in my school… There were the rebels. These kids didn’t want to...
A while ago, I was the opening guest speaker at a business retreat for salon owners. All the attendees received a copy of my book, Delight in the Limelight, and over the two days, many of them approached me to get their books signed and share with me their speaking...
Our pre-show ritual For forty years, I performed with a women’s world music group– 500 concerts across the US, Canada, Bulgaria, Greece, Morocco, and India. I was the principal dancer, but we all sang and I played percussion and the upright bass as well. Some were...
How to stop relying on validation from others I had a simple formula that worked for me in grade school —figure out what each teacher wanted and do that. When I started to date, I adopted the same strategy. I would do my best to figure out what my target guy was...
Backpacking around the world in 1978 Back in 1978, I undertook a year of travel around the world by myself. I was supposed to be going with my boyfriend, and my parents assumed I was, But that’s a story for a different time. Point is, I was on my own to...
What would you do if you didn’t feel inhibition speaking in public? Have you ever had an urge to do something in public, but you dismissed it as soon as the thought entered your mind? My husband and I were camping with our buddies Alan and Cheryl at the beach on Cape...